If speaking feels important to you this year
Hello, lovely voice,
As January unfolds, I’ve been reflecting on a Gremlin that creeps into our resolutions and plans: perfectionist tendencies.
A friend just texted that she’s training to run a marathon this year, not because she loves running, but because she “should” exercise more.
A dear relative said she should lose weight as we were charging up a hill on a five-mile hike, equating “thinness” with health. We had a healthy debate about it.
The perfectionist trap is strong, and it affects how we communicate, too.
The desire to better our speaking can quickly turn punishing and “judgy”, as my teenage sons say.
The longer I work with women, especially in midlife, the more I love letting go of perfectionism, undoing performative communication, and showing up as our beautifully, perfectly imperfect selves.
Many women are no longer striving to be perfect speakers; instead, they want to feel natural, less performative, and more at home in their own voices.
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